What to Say When...
In the hardest ADHD parenting moments, it's hard to find the right words. These scripts give you exact phrases — what to say, what not to say, and why it works — based on how the ADHD brain actually processes emotion and instruction.
AllEmotional RegulationBehaviorDaily RoutinesSchoolSelf-Esteem
My Child Is Having a Meltdown
Emotional RegulationI can see you're really frustrated right now.
My Child Refuses to Do Homework
SchoolI can see homework feels really hard right now. Let's figure out what's making it tough.
My Child Says "I'm Stupid"
Self-EsteemI hear you saying that, and I want you to know — that's not true. But I understand it feels true right now.
My Child Is Hitting Their Sibling
BehaviorI need to keep everyone safe. [Physically separate them calmly.] I can see you're really upset.
My Child Won't Get Ready for School
Daily RoutinesGood morning. Here's what's next: [one task only]. Shirt on. That's it for now.
My Child Is Melting Down in Public
Emotional RegulationI'm here. Let's find a quiet spot. [Move toward exit or a calmer area.]
My Child Screams "I Hate You!"
Emotional RegulationI hear you. You're really upset right now.
My Child Broke Something in Anger
BehaviorI can see you were really overwhelmed. Let's take a breath before we deal with the mess.
My Child Is Having a Meltdown at Bedtime
Daily RoutinesYour body is tired even if your brain doesn't feel tired yet. Let's help your brain slow down.
My Child Is Being Defiant / Oppositional
BehaviorI can see you don't want to do this. Can you tell me what's making it hard?
My Child Is Anxious About Going to School
SchoolI can see school feels really hard right now. That's a real feeling and I believe you.
My Child Won't Stop Interrupting
BehaviorI can see you have something important to say. Hold that thought — I'll come back to you in one minute.
My Child Is Lying to Me
BehaviorI think what really happened might be different from what you told me. I'm not going to be mad — I just want to understand.
My Child Is Extremely Picky or Won't Eat
Daily RoutinesYou don't have to eat everything. Can you try one bite of the new thing? If you don't like it, that's okay.